The Inner Journey

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Life coaching, motivation and self realization concept

The wise say that life is a journey, not a destination. And in that journey, your greatest obstacles come from within.

It’s a given that we will faces challenges great and small. But the inner conflicts are the ones that limit our ability to rise, to shine, to excel, and to become a bigger, better version of ourselves.

Sometimes these barriers are a reflection of our current mindset and circumstances. We just aren’t ready to think and do things differently.

1.We might have a mind-set that we’re not good enough, and may never be good enough to reach for that next level.

It might be related to a misperception of what’s involved, or a disconnect between your perception of your own abilities and the needs for that next project, role or level. You may be happy and satisfied with this mind-set. But if you’re not, start by asking questions about the opportunities, your assumptions and your abilities.

Asking the right people and getting candid answers will help you better understand circumstances beyond your own perceptions and reality. This is generally a good thing!

2. We may be responding or reacting to past mistakes, or even still suffering brand and financial consequences from same.

  • Embrace the courage, fortitude and resilience to make the most of failures.

Make failure the fodder for future success.

3. We might be challenged by life circumstances that make it difficult to embrace something new and challenging.

  • The important people in your life are the most important things in your life. If you need to be there for someone important in your life, make that choice to do so, and postpone those other opportunities.

Don’t second-guess yourself for putting the people you love first. Don’t judge others if they made that choice for their loved ones.


Sometimes these barriers are a result of negatively comparing ourselves to other people or other ideals.

1. We live in a competitive business environment where there are so many talented, accomplished intelligent and accomplished people.

  • It’s hard to compare yourself positively with those amazing people around you.  And you should choose to work with amazing people as it increases the likelihood of success!

You are likely too biased to fairly assess the needs and the intersect with your abilities, but if you gather multiple inputs from wise and trusted others, you will find a truth larger than one you can own yourself personally.

2. Sometimes we limit ourselves by assumed ‘Must Have’ requirements that don’t fit your own profile.

  • You can’t change your gender, IQ, SAT score, alma mater, track record, year of birth, etc., and if you assume that your characteristic precludes you from specific role(s), opportunities, etc, you’re very much limiting what you can target.

What opportunities would open up for us if we start questioning our ‘Must-Have’ assumptions?


Sometimes our own self-centered view of the world prevents us from seeing a broader, bigger set of opportunities.

1.The defeatist ‘It-Will-Never-Work’ perspective may be true some of the time, but generally it zaps energy from an idea that may have been promising.

  • Be open to what’s new and what’s different, even if it makes you feel uncomfortable.

Give someone or something a chance unless all the data says it’s not practical or logical to do so.

2. The ‘It’s Too Late’ mindset assumes that an idea or opportunity is too late to market or does not add enough differentiating value compared to competitive offerings.

  • It’s hard to get with the program if that’s what you’re thinking, and it’s hard for a project to succeed if many people had that mindset. If you feel that way, make the case for changing the offering, disagree and commit or find another opportunity.

Having the too-late mindset will not help the company or product succeed and you will be unhappy while going through the motions.

3. The ‘Been-There, Done-That’ mindset means that you don’t want to try doing again what you’ve already seen or done in the past.

  • This might be because you didn’t like it last time, or it didn’t go as well as you expected last time, or you don’t think it will be an enriching experience to do it again.

Sometimes that ‘Been-There, Done-That’ perspective is useful, and sometimes, not so much.

4. The ‘Not-Invented-Here’ mindset makes it hard to follow someone else’s idea.

  • This is especially true if it’s counter to what you’re used to, or what you think should be done instead.
  • Sometimes it’s a bitter pill to swallow, to have to follow that particular someone’s idea…

Sometimes following someone else’s idea or energy can open up new opportunities, thoughts, relationships and energy.

5. The ‘It’s-Not-My-Fault’ mindset is often built on fear of failure, and a history of lackluster results.

  • If you’re going to commit, commit fully and be prepared for the results, good or bad.

Own up to the results, whatever they are. This is the best way to learn from each attempt.

Best wishes on your inner journey. You are the only one who can manage it and direct it, so make the most of it and STRETCH your own perception of yourself.

 

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